The only way I've been able to keep a clean house is by following
Flylady. Here are a few of the reasons why I love her system:
- She tells me what to do in manageable increments (15 minutes at a time).
- She helped me realize that I'm a perfectionist.
- She doesn't allow whining. Compassion and understanding, Yes. Whining...NO.
My mom was a perfectionist. What I didn't realize for many years is that I am one too. My mom was a perfectionist that would stay up until 3:00AM to get something done right.
I am a perfectionist that won't start something unless I can do it perfectly.
Don't have 3 hours? Why bother trying to clean the bathtub. Don't have an hour? Then I'm not going to try to sort through the mess on my kitchen Island. 15 minutes couldn't possibly make a difference. I'm just going to sit down and do nothing.
I am a recovering perfectionist. Truly, I am. I still have negative thoughts about myself when I enter someones house that is much cleaner than mine. I am still trying to get over my perfectionism so my husband is free to invite someone over for dinner....especially spur of the moment (had a mini heart attack just writing that).
Years ago, before Flylady, if I was going to have anyone over I had to spend about 12 hours on my house. Not because it was totally cluttered and dirty, but I had certain expectations of how clean my house had to be.
All I wanted was to have a clean house.
Everything to be clean at the same time.
I couldn't manage that. I could manage to have a sparkling bathtub or a clean counter top or vacuumed carpets, but nothing was every done at the same time.
Fast forward about eleven years.
I have a clean house. Nope, far from perfect. In fact as I type this I have piles of
"Clothe-A-Kid" stuff all over the place. However, the bathrooms are clean (enough), my floors are clean (enough), and my kitchen Island is clean (enough).
If you are having problems trying to keep a clean house, I'd strongly recommend that you read the book or check out her
website.