Are you adding chaos to your life because you won't say no?
This weekend there was a need that "suddenly" came up at the basketball tournament my daughter participated in. They needed help at the basketball game selling tickets, t-shirts and concessions. I say "suddenly" because it wasn't really surprising. The people who run the basketball tournament chose to let teams sign up for the tournament after the deadline had passed so they had to open up another school for the games.
Had I been asked a few weeks before the tournament if I would help, I would have. The day before the tournament, nope. A few years ago I would have said yes to the "emergency." If someone needs me to watch their child because they need to go to the hospital, of course I would help out - that's a true emergency. When someone else makes a choice, it doesn't mean that you have to make the same choice.
It may seem harsh, but I love this quote:
Lack of planning on your part, does NOT constitute an emergency on mine.