Money Monday -

I figured something out the other day. You know my husband, the one I CHOSE to marry almost 18 years ago. He has opinions. He doesn't always voice them, but when he does, I usually listen to him, but don't always HEAR what he's trying to say.

I can't remember exactly what he said, I only remember what I said, "You mean, you didn't get a new job (with a long commute) that pays significantly more money just so we could pay off our student loan debt faster?" "Ummmm...no honey, I didn't." (he probably didn't say that exactly, but I'm telling a story here.)

I just ASSUMED that is why he wanted a new job. So I was busy making charts and graphs (because I'm the nerd that Dave Ramsey  talks about) showing how quickly we could pay off the loan.

Then I realized that he got a higher paying job so we would have more wiggle room in our very tight budget. You see, he's a VERY generous person. He also likes to do things like go on hikes and camp with our family. Many times these things cost money. As a wife, I can decide to fight him every step, or I can try to see his side of things. Does he want to pay off the loans? Yes. Does he see the big picture and have the same big goals that I do? Yes. He wants me to remain a homemaker for as long as I want to. He wants to enjoy the last five years we get to have with our daughter at home. He wants to spend time together as a family.

My conclusion - I can accept him and his choices or I can fight for what I *THINK* is the right way.

I CHOOSE peace in my marriage.

I CHOOSE not to fight.

I CHOOSE to enjoy the blessings of him being a generous person.

Just because I choose these things, doesn't mean I've given up anything other than worrying about spending too much money.

Our discussions about money go much smoother now!

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