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I received a sweet email the other day.
It came at the perfect time as I was contemplating the direction of my blog.
This is going to be a very “hummingbird” post. Meaning it’s one big ole brain dump after not posting since July.
As a rule follower, I have a love hate relationship with rules. I love having clear cut instructions. I love to know exactly what is expected of me. When I found out there were a bunch of blogging rules I jumped right in.
- Spend hours writing and editing a post. Check.
- Make sure you add a cool picture. Check.
- Make sure you add key words like homemaking so google can find you in your homemaking posts. Check. I am a homemaker. I can homemake. Homemaking is fun…yeah, not so much fun.
- Good bloggers post consistently.
- Good bloggers post on a schedule (with a cool picture).
- Make sure you link to others. Blah blah blah.
I could tell you that I was so busy this summer that I had no time to post. That is simply not true. I was tired.
Tired of the blogging rules. What started out as a fun hobby turned into something it wasn’t meant to be.
I HATE HATE HATE writing.
Seriously HATE it.
If there is one thing in the world I hate to do is write. So why have a blog?
Because I believe I can help others in their homemaking journey.
Other rules that have been hounding me to death...if you want to be a good “Christian” (ummm isn’t that an oxymoron…if we truly are a Christ follower then we admit we are not good)…you should always be productive. If you are not productive then you should be doing something constructive with your time.
As if just sitting and “being” isn’t enough.
As if sitting and praying, letting your mind empty of thoughts (AKA reduce stress) is not enough.
As if being grateful for the cool clouds or the bright sun is not enough.
Lies….they are all lies. Whether someone actually said them or not, it’s what I’ve believed for far too long.
I also realized that I wanted to be normal. Well, no, I want others to THINK I am normal. My friends in real life are thinking "dude, you don't even believe in dinosaurs, you are NEVER going to be normal...but that is a whole different story.")
It’s okay to be a stay at home mom when your kids are home, but when they go to school you must make money. Well, if you aren’t making money you have to be productive. So….I must be focused on money all the time? Yeah, no thanks, I don’t want to be normal.
It’s normal to take care of everyone else’s needs, except your own. I’m not talking about going shopping because you are depressed. I’m talking about taking 10 minutes just to sit and be. Sit and enjoy your life ~ be grateful for the busyness of your life. 10 minutes to go for a nice quiet walk.
Rules are good when it comes to money. Don’t spend more than you make.
There…that is it.
It’s not a rule to tithe. Yes, we give 10%, but it’s NOT A RULE (yelling at myself.) I’ve had so much fun with some of that money lately. A self-imposed rule is to take some of that money and bless someone God puts on my heart. My rule is that they cannot know that it is me giving them the blessing.
Don’t even get me started on the “rule” of being on time. I think I’ve given myself a few heart attacks trying to get to church on “time.” As if God won’t be there anymore if I’m late.
Often times people complain about Flylady because she has too many rules (I’ve probably complained LOL). The rule you have when you start following her is to shine your sink.
Too many rules?
I think not.
Bad attitude on my part?
Yeppers. Maybe I’m not such a rule follower after all???
Where does this leave me now?
Well, I’m definitely not writing anymore for other people. I truly hope that I help someone with the tips I share, but I cannot focus on grammar or I lose the oomph to write. You have to read what Lisa wrote after someone corrected her in a post. Thankfully she got the hate note instead of me, she was much nicer than I would have been. One part that jumped out at me was:
And, the misuse of a comma, command or word does not equate to a lower intellectual ability or lack of accountability. Nor does starting this sentence with an improper beginning intend to upset you. We just love to write creatively and spontaneously.
You will have to read the rest of the post dedicated "to those who love grammar"….it was awesome.
Don't Read My Blog...
So I am back to the attitude “if you don’t like how I write” please don’t read my blog. I don’t mean that in an unkind way…you’ll go NUTS with my mistakes and I am only here to try and help people.
|Look again at the first picture in this post...|
crazy how we miss things when we move too quickly.
When I follow other people’s rules, I ALLOW them to steal my joy. They don’t steal it from me, I ALLOW it to happen. That is an important distinction for me. One feels like a hopeless attitude, the other allows me to choose the reality I want.
So here’s to a non-writer blogging again. You may see several posts in a day or one every three weeks. You just never know what you are going to get when you follow a hummingbird homemaking blogger!